Posts tagged counseling
There’s nothing wrong with millennials, you’re just old.

Donatone goes on to talk about how millennials are labeled by other authors as narcissistic, opposes this view, and then goes on to label all millennial parents as helicopter parents. First, let’s get one thing straight: clearly, this woman is talking about rich and probably for the most part, white people: she’s a therapist at NYU. She’s referencing a small percentage of a generation. Perhaps the title of the article should be “Why NYU Students Can’t Grow Up”. Because as many of us know, poorer parents, even middle class ones, don’t have time to flutter around their child’s every move these days.

So what is helicopter parenting, you might ask? It’s that “overinvolved” parent who does everything from running the PTA, to practically doing their kid’s homework, to writing their college applications. The problem is that when someone does everything for you, it can lead to a lack of self-efficacy. Which makes sense: if no one trusts you to do anything for yourself, why would you trust yourself to do anything? Donatone cites a couple of articles about recent college grads who take their parents on job interviews. But even the Huffington Post article she mentions shows an understanding that the economy is shit, adding to the fear of “growing up”.

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Finding the right therapist for YOU

I get all sorts of questions about therapists and the counseling process from friends and family. I am thrilled about the decreasing social stigma surrounding therapy, whether for the individual, couple, or family.

Then, I see an article like this - Marriage Counselors: 10 Things They Don't Want You to Know. Now, there is good advice in this article, but it is unfortunately buried in the 2nd or 3rd paragraphs of each topic. The reader is purposefully drawn to the title and topics, which are negative and misleading. I worry that articles like this one are discouraging people from seeking therapy in an age when there are so many well-trained counselors, therapists, psychologists, and coaches offering many opportunities for, and different paths to, true personal growth.

I'm not saying that there are no bad counselors out there. There certainly are, because along with a growing market comes a greater discrepancy in legitimacy. Finding a good therapist can be difficult, but it can also significantly help your relationships and/or you as an individual. I'm going to offer some advice through a series of posts, the first being on the subject of the initial search for a good therapist.

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