Posts tagged baltimore life coach
5 WAYS TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK

I talk to myself. All the time. If you see me walking down the street alone, you'll probably see me talking to myself. It's how I plan and process ideas. If it stays in my head and doesn't come out of my mouth, it's not tangible to me. It's just the way I work.

I know I look crazy, but it's not really something I can stop doing.

I also run into things and fall. All the time. I've had many a friend laugh at my stumbles over the years. I've actually got great balance, just no spatial awareness. The other day, I twisted my ankle walking down unfamiliar steps because I was reading my email. I fell, cursed, checked my ankle (it was fine), and then looked around immediately to see if anyone saw me. No signs of life. Hooray! Just then a security guard walked up and said, "Are you ok, Ma'am?" I laughed and said, "Oh, I'm just learning the lesson: Don't look at your phone while walking down stairs." He laughed, too and we went our separate ways.

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Why is growth so difficult? How to get through change, even when it's good.

As the year ends, many of us look back with mixed emotions. Regardless of whether you judge your time as "good" or "bad", the fact remains that you changed in some way. Everyone changes from year to year, even if only minutely. The world is constantly in transition and we are all affected by it. If you lost someone or something, you changed; if you gained someone or something, you changed; if someone close to you lost or gained someone, you are affected because they are.

Being that we are constantly in flux, it seems funny that most of us would be afraid of change, even positive adjustments, in some way. But it's a natural fear of the unknown. We're creatures of habit, so when we don't know what's coming next we get excited, and maybe a bit anxious. Adrenalin pops in to say hello and prepare us for whatever dangers might be ahead. This is why transitions, even positive ones, can be hard to handle.

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There’s nothing wrong with millennials, you’re just old.

Donatone goes on to talk about how millennials are labeled by other authors as narcissistic, opposes this view, and then goes on to label all millennial parents as helicopter parents. First, let’s get one thing straight: clearly, this woman is talking about rich and probably for the most part, white people: she’s a therapist at NYU. She’s referencing a small percentage of a generation. Perhaps the title of the article should be “Why NYU Students Can’t Grow Up”. Because as many of us know, poorer parents, even middle class ones, don’t have time to flutter around their child’s every move these days.

So what is helicopter parenting, you might ask? It’s that “overinvolved” parent who does everything from running the PTA, to practically doing their kid’s homework, to writing their college applications. The problem is that when someone does everything for you, it can lead to a lack of self-efficacy. Which makes sense: if no one trusts you to do anything for yourself, why would you trust yourself to do anything? Donatone cites a couple of articles about recent college grads who take their parents on job interviews. But even the Huffington Post article she mentions shows an understanding that the economy is shit, adding to the fear of “growing up”.

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In honor of Veteran's Day - All about PTSD (it's not just for veterans)

I know you've heard a fair amount about PTSD or posttraumatic stress disorder lately: there's an alarming number of men and women returning from war with symptoms that often go unnoticed until something disturbing happens and the disorder is often blamed as one of the key reasons many veterans end up homeless and/or addicted to drugs or alcohol. But what exactly is PTSD and how does one get it?

Let's start with the "trauma" portion of the disorder. PTSD is defined by the Mayo clinic as: "A mental health condition that's triggered by a terrifying event." What's significant here is the phrase "terrifying event". The experience of combat is no doubt terrifying, but others things can be terrifying, too. Physical abuse, sexual abuse, abandonment, car accidents, workplace accidents, even verbal abuse - these can all be traumatic events. What's even more notable is that these events do not have to happen to you directly in order to cause symptoms of PTSD. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorder (DSM 5) notes that if you witness a traumatic event, learn about terrible trauma that happened to someone close to you, or if you are exposed to the details of trauma over and over again as part of your job, you can develop PTSD. In short, anyone can get PTSD.

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